Once in a while, people ask me if I’ve met anyone lately, and it’s one of those questions that makes me want to roll my eyes. It’s mostly people I haven’t spoken to for some time, but I always have to ask myself, if they actually know me. The thing is, I’ve been single for a million years because I mostly chose to be. I mean it. I’m very good on my own and am not actively looking for love. And I think to make me change my mind, I just have to fall head over heels, without any chance of overthinking.
Yes, I am on Tinder, but it’s mostly for pure entertainment, cause men can be so dumb. I never really take any of it seriously. Except maybe once or twice, I was open to actual communications and a date, only to learn, as so many times before, that men are douchebags.
The question bothers me because where the hell do they think I would just meet someone? First of all, I never leave the house. Seriously, it’s insane. And with Corona going strong, I just live in my basement and go to physical therapy once a week. Second of all, almost all of my friends are married, have kids, and early bedtimes. And when we meet up, it’s going for walks or just hanging out sipping some tea while watching the kids. Now if that isn’t the way to meet guys, I don’t know what is. There is also most definitely nobody at work, but I wouldn’t even notice, cause I work from home.
I honestly don’t know where to actually meet someone. I’m also never sure if I want to. And yeah, you may say these things just happen, but there is a difference in your attitude, depending on whether or not you’re open to meeting someone. I mostly give off a strong leave me alone kinda vibe, and the good ones do. I’m honestly really not very approachable. But a part of me still believes in accidentally running into someone at the supermarket. And then, I would probably just leave and blow my chances. But who knows.
I’m certain that I could’ve met someone special over the past decade, with a different attitude. I did meet some guys. But to crack my shell, you just have to be one hell of a guy, and that’s not easy. I’m just so used to being alone, and I am not familiar with being in a relationship as an adult. Furthermore, I am not easy to deal with. The only thing I can tell you is that when you mean something to me, you will know because I would do anything for the people I love. I just need someone worthy of it, who can also deal with my antics. Again, not an easy person who has been alone for probably too long.
Anyway, my point: Don’t go around asking stupid questions. I get it but just don’t. Also, don’t ask people when they’ll get pregnant, married, or whatever. Of course, I have done this myself, but we should never stop learning, and I don’t do it anymore. If I do, call me out on it. Cause the thing is, you never know what someone is going through, so just mind your own business. Also, if I would actually meet someone, nobody would believe me if I told them, anyway. But eventually, I would share the news. Maybe on like Instagram and give everyone a heart attack and have my phone blow up.
We are all designers of our own lives, and there is no one right path. Not everyone wants to get married, have kids, have no kids, buy a house, be single – you name it. Let’s just say, I know what I don’t want, and the rest will happen when it happens.