Learn From Mean Girls: Don’t Change Who You Are For Other People

In case you didn’t know: It’s October 3rd, so HAPPY MEAN GIRLS DAY!

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I’ve written posts related to this masterpiece of a movie before, so today, I want to dive more into why it’s not a good idea to try changing who you are for other people. I feel like most characters in the movie are all pretending to be someone or something they are not. Except for Damian and Janis. And probably Kevin G. They’re fab. But why are the rest of them faking it? To be popular.

Sure, high school is hard, and fitting in, in some way, is often safer than standing out. But in my opinion, it will also keep you from ever being happy. Pretending is exhausting. My whole life, I’ve always tried to be myself – no matter what. And trust me when I say that I had to deal with a lot of shit because of it. But at the end of the day, even if it was hard sometimes, I always wanted to be able to look in the mirror and know I’m being true to myself. I’d rather be alone than having fake people in my life who don’t love me for me.


In the movie, Cady completely gets sucked into the whole Plastics thing and just changes who she is. But in regards to her upbringing, I guess it was pretty inevitable. She never went to a real school before. Imagine how hard that must be.

What frustrates me, though, is how she pretends to be bad at math to impress Aaron. But then again, I feel like this is a pretty female thing to do: dumbing down to impress a guy. Why on earth do we do this? I’ve probably done it. Yeah, pretty sure I have.

I’ve also done it to keep a male boss from having his ego hurt and freaking out about it. But here is the difference: Sometimes, it’s about understanding a situation and someone’s personality, and then choosing a way to soften the blow toward yourself and getting what you want. But doing it with someone you fancy? That doesn’t make sense cause in case you actually start dating or something, how long are you willing to keep up the charade? And we all deserve someone who loves us for exactly who we are. Nothing less.


All of the Plastics put on a show. Probably to impress Regina George, as much as possible. She’s the shot caller and puts a lot of pressure on everyone. However, she’s just as insecure as everybody else. She’s just good at hiding it. But toward the end of the movie, it becomes clear that the personas they all created aren’t really where their heart is at. And that’s sad. Wear the damn hoop earrings, Gretchen.

But peer-pressure is intense. I’m sure most people have witnessed it at some point. At school, university, work – anywhere. I don’t want to judge, I just want you to know that being yourself will ultimately feel more rewarding. And if you see someone being mistreated for being who they are, please stand up for them.

We all deserve to be ourselves. We are all unique, and that is a good thing. Something even the Plastics eventually figure out. By the end of the movie, they embrace who they are, and just do what they love. And that’s exactly how it should be. Being yourself is so fetch!

Other people matter. But there is no point becoming someone else in order to find friends. In order to find the people who like you, it is first necessary to be you. – Matt Haig, The Comfort Book

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