A little while ago I’ve discovered so-called blogger chats on Twitter. Every chat has a host and a hashtag which helps to communicate with other people. A couple of Sunday’s ago, I joined the chat by the lovely Freda aka @BloggerBees, who helps people to support their blogs. The host comes up with questions and posts them for everyone to discuss. The topic was “Hotline Bling – Relationship Reflection,” the hashtag for this chat was #chattybees and it’s also the same # for future chats. I loved it a lot and engaged with a lot of girls from all over the world. This topic was totally up my alley, even though I’m terrible at relationships and consider myself to be undateable. To describe me in relationships, I like to use the words of Alice:
“I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it.”
1. What’s your current relationship status? Are you happy with it? Why or why not?
I’ve been single for what seems like forever and I’m definitely ok with it. Because of having been by myself for so long, I don’t even know if I could make a relationship work, even if I wanted to. Maybe if it’s the right guy who just blows me away and even then, it’s not going to be easy. If it ever does happen, I will probably die of a heart attack and everyone around me, as well. I like being single and since I don’t want to get married or have children, I’m in no rush to change that. A few days of the year, I wish it was different, though.
2. Have you ever tried online dating? How did it go?
My BFF made me sign up on Tinder, but it was just for the fun of swiping. I’m already over it. Tinder has no guys for me. Maybe if I move to big city, it would make more sense. Currently, I know like half the people on there (ok, I exaggerated), and I wasn’t really feeling the rest. And then they also lie or expect me to hand over my phone number after 3 minutes of chatting and I’m just not having any of that. One guy seemed ok and after a while, he even made me hand out my number. But then he seemed too desperate, and then too annoying and then he just stopped texting and then I was over all of it. After swiping left on almost every single guy within a 30km reach between 25 and 33, there is nobody left to swipe right, anyway.
3. What’s the longest amount of time you’ve been single?
I actually have to do some math. Ummm, I think for six or seven years now but since I’ve never been in an awesome relationship and was always more alone than together with someone, it feels like I’ve been single forever.
4. Do you have deal-breakers? What are they?
I don’t want to date a fitness guy again who orders chicken salad and diet coke while I’m stuffing my face with pizza. I mean, healthy is good but he has to eat pizza and especially not judge me for doing it. A friend of mine went on a date once and the guy asked her: “Are you sure you want to eat that?” I think she dared to have dessert. Honestly, that would be the moment I leave. I also can’t stand guys who are desperate. Desperate people are so unattractive
5. What’s the worst date you’ve been on?
To be honest, I’m pretty sure I’ve never been on an actual date. By that I mean with someone I don’t really know, that I’ve met somewhere and who asked me out, someone I haven’t kissed before etc. Trust me, it’s different when you suddenly go on a date with a friend. Anyway, I’ve been on one date that I find pretty awful until today. I mean, if the guy can’t even get the tickets but chimes in with a clear “NO” when asked if we wanted a couple’s seat, you can already tell that it’s not going to be an awesome date. If you want the full story, read here: My Worst Date. Although thinking about it, my actual worst date was my BFF’s date, that I had to join. LONG STORY.
6. What’s the best date you’ve ever been on? Don’t have one yet? Describe your dream date.
Yeah, no perfect dates for me. I’m trying really hard to think of one but if it doesn’t pop into my head right away, it wasn’t that good. If I ever do end up on an actual date, I just hope that I will remember it when someone ask me these kind of questions. A perfect date would be a day full of laughter and feeling safe with someone I don’t even know. Nothing worse than feeling uncomfortable. Dating can be really nerve-wracking but I’m sure that it can also be a beautiful thing.
7. What have you learned from previous relationships?
I learned that I have terrible taste in men and that I should be with someone who lifts me up instead of bringing me down. Man, I alway have such great advice and then I meet someone and forget all about it. I also learned that it’s a good thing to just stay away. It definitely makes my life a lot easier.
8. Give one piece of advice from your experiences that might help someone else.
You are great as you are and you deserve someone who respects and loves you for everything that’s great and also for your flaws. Be yourself! Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not because you want your partner to like you for you. And no matter what happens, don’t ever lose yourself. Nobody is worth it.